Trauma: A Brake or Our Main Engine?

Problems in life, relationships, finances, and health — do they push us forward or hold us back?

Both. Our trauma slows us down, yet at the same time, it propels us forward, preventing us from staying at peace or giving up.

All of our gifts and talents mean nothing to that small part of us that is still waiting to be loved and seen by mom. The inner child sees no value in adult achievements, money, or pleasures. Do you remember how a toddler cries when their mother leaves? Even the most coveted toys fade into the background compared to that pain.

This is exactly what happens in adult life:

From our adult, healthy self, we strive for prosperity, visibility, and meaningful, deep relationships.

From our wounded child self, we continue to believe that as long as we remain small, helpless, crying, and grieving, it will surely move mom to compassion. There is so much hope and meaning tied up in that childhood pain. Have you ever watched a child crying for their mother? That cry carries life itself. It is a desperate struggle for survival and growth — even at the cost of refusing someone else’s care, an ice cream, or a substitute toy offered in her place. And today, I clearly see how vital it is to recognize the beauty and unprecedented strength within that childhood impulse. To claim this capacity — because it belongs to us! — and to walk this path: to see and acknowledge our own power, and to redirect it toward our adult desires, goals, and everything we truly want right now.

Sounds simple? Perhaps.

In practice however… Sometimes 30, 40, or 50 years pass and it still feels like not enough. And this is precisely where help is needed — to serve as a grounded, steady guide on this journey.